Week 17 – Courage

When fear strikes it’s hard to strike up enough courage unless you have a definite purpose in life.  Once you can see the trees through the forest and realize what is important, it’s amazing how easy life gets.  When you can visualize what you want to become, where you see yourself, and what kind of person you will become in your future self, the fear fades away.  It definitely takes courage to pick up the phone or to walk into an establishment and ask for their business, but without a definite major purpose this task may be difficult.  With a DMP, everything changes.

When choosing what task was a weakness in my life, courage was near the top my list.  I have had success, but I felt it was not enough.  My old blueprint was holding me back.  Negative people have kept me from moving toward my potential.  However, recently, something has over come me the past few weeks that I feel has helped with my move toward embracing everything we have been talking about over the past few months in MKE!  I am definitely a better person and I am becoming a better business woman in the process.  When I moved to the city I am currently living in, I knew no one and knew nothing about business.  I feel I have moved in the right direction the last few months with everything I have learned and am learning about.  I have become a networking machine and people have commented how I have been giving so many referrals in the past few months and to keep it up…give more, get more, right?!  It is SO true!!  It is all coming together and I am so grateful I have been a part of this class.

Sometimes we have to dig deep and ask ourselves, what is holding us back?  Some times our own head keeps us from becoming the person we were intended to become.  I will become the person I know I can be.  I will become my DMP.  I am no longer keeping fear as an excuse to not succeed.  I will succeed because I have the courage!


Week 16 – RAK Week

I have been amazed at all the things, big and small, that people have done for one another during our week of focused Random Acts Of Kindnesses.  It has been a breath of fresh air to hear about all the different acts of kindness done by MKE members or to hear about their eye witness accounts of others performing random acts of kindness.  Reading through all the different accounts and commenting back has put a smile on my face.  It’s amazing how sometimes such a simple effort can make all the difference in the world.  Sometimes just a simple smile can be huge to someone who doesn’t think he or she is even noticed in the world.  Everyone likes to be acknowledged.  Simple, but priceless.  This whole exercise has given me a glimpse at what a little effort can do to help change the world.

As kids we all have aspirations to grow up and change the world.  Somewhere down the path of life that fire was put to the back burner.  And quite frankly, some times I think about how were we going to do that?  Now, I realize with this exercise we are changing the world one act at a time.  We just have to continue the process and we will reach more and more people and perhaps those people will return the kindness as well.  It’s like another pay it forward movement.  We are making a difference.  We are changing the world one act at a time.  And I like it!

Week 15 – Grateful

There are so many things we can be thankful for.  The exercise of adding to our grateful list daily has been very empowering and eye opening.  It’s amazing when we started to think of all the accomplishments we have experienced over the course of our life, it really opened up a flood gate of things I hadn’t thought about in a LONG time.  It is so true that we, as humans, have a tendency to dwell on the failures, let downs, or negatives in our life.  It’s always easy to remember the bad things, but sometimes really hard to remember all the good.  For me, I know I have always blown off praise for accomplishments, like, “no big deal.”  But now, I see how every little thing, no matter how insignificant in my mind are a part of who I am.  These are the pieces of my life’s puzzle.  The other thing I have come to realize is what is easy for me may be something really difficult for someone else.  So, something simple to me may have been something enormous for the other person giving the praise.  The more I am becoming an observer of my life, the more I am realizing how simple it all is!

Being reminded on a daily basis of all the “little” things I have been able to do is changing me.  Learning how to be gracious and saying, “thank you” to people for compliments has been life changing.  This whole exercise is making me become a better person.  This whole exercise is opening my eyes to how much harder I was making things.  I am finally comfortable in my skin and happy with what I am doing.  Giving more, has been helping me get more.  Even the little things, the sum of the parts do add up.  I am grateful that I have been given this opportunity and changing my life as I knew it.



Week 13/14—Persistence

I love the movie Rudy!  Rudy is this little guy that had BIG dreams and NEVER let anyone tell him he wasn’t going to achieve them.  Rudy’s dream was to go to the University of Notre Dame and play football.  Everyone told him his whole life what they thought he couldn’t do:  can’t pay for school, can’t go to Notre Dame, can’t play football at college, can’t get in a game, and so on, but his desire to see his dream come true, his persistence to succeed was greater than what anyone else could say or do.

As Rudy grew up obstacles came at him in every way, shape, and form.  When it was time to apply to college, he didn’t have the grades necessary to get into Notre Dame.  So, he went to a small college, but stayed near his dream by volunteering for the football team’s booster club.  He helped paint helmets every week so the golden helmets stayed golden and he got to be near the football stadium.  He didn’t have enough money to go to school, so he got a job working on the grounds crew at the Notre Dame stadium.  He was doing everything he could do to keep his dream alive.

Eventually, Rudy got in to Notre Dame and he went out for the football team.  Everyone was telling him he was too small to play, but his desire and his relentless, persistent work ethic made the coaches take notice and he made the team—being practically a tackle dummy on the practice squad.  When everybody else was getting tired or let up, Rudy worked harder and he made the first team work harder and made them better.  And the coaches noticed, but they still thought he was too small.  Rudy’s ultimate goal, once he made the team was to get on the field for a game.  Again, every obstacle from every way, shape, and form was thrown at him to keep him from getting to his goal and dream.

Rudy didn’t let negative thoughts detour him or affect him because his DMP was too strong.  Rudy didn’t need anyone’s permission to achieve what was a burning desire in every fiber of his being.  No matter all the negative noise around him and no matter the negative events around him, he still believed he could do it and wouldn’t stop until he did.  He still believed in his goal of playing in a game.  After all the sacrifice, pain, and agony, he never gave up on his dream.  The greatest compliment of all, was Rudy’s last game when every single player on the team turned in their uniform as to be replaced by him, as a sacrificial gesture, to let Rudy get on the field and play.  He had been physically ripped up day after day after day and made the Notre Dame team better and they all respected him because of his relentless work ethic.  The act of giving up their starting spot by the entire team was a gesture of respect and the coaches eventually allowed Rudy to get in the game.  Thus, his attitude of never give up and persistence had paid off.  His dream was achieved.  You never know what persistence can do when you put your mind to it!  Ru-dy, Ru-dy, Ru-dy!!!!


Week 12 – Grab a dose of positiveness

There are some days when, as hard as you try to stay positive, there are negative people, negative actions, and negative words all around you.  It’s easy to get beat down or let others influence you and your daily life which affect your long term goals.  The Mental Diet has helped tremendously for me to not own the negatives of others.  But some days as hard as you try to stay up, there are days where you just need a dose of positiveness from people who get you.

I haven’t been able to be on every one of my Tribe’s Zoom meetings, but I get there as much as my schedule allows.  When people in my Tribe get on Marco Polo throughout various times and days, they lift me up, make me smile, and help me stay in the positive mode!  My Tribe only knows me from this group and only knows me from the few times I have been with them on our weekly Zooms.  They only know we are all trying to achieve the same goal and all become a better “Me’s”. This gathering is a great group of people who are pursuing the same positive outcome that I am and it’s great knowing you can just talk about it and be on the same page.  I’ve never been a part of a Master Mind group, but I totally get it now.  You need others once in a while to pop up in your life to keep you on track and keep you propelled toward your DMP!  This class, my tribe, is a great way to reach out a and grab a dose of positiveness that we all need to keep going.  I am grateful for that!

Week 11 – The Mind is A Powerful Thing

I love basketball!  Growing up, I played on a State Championship team in Indiana, the basketball capital of the world, in High School and just fell in love with the sport.  I remember one practice our Coach was kind of mad at our Free Throw percentages and threatened us with running ladders (a bunch of sprints) if we ever “air balled” a free throw in a game.  Fast forward to the next game.  I got fouled and was at the free throw line.  I’ll never forget it.  I stepped up, with the routine I had practiced over and over and over again, looked at the rim and shot.  Guess what happened?  I air balled.  I had NEVER in my life done that before, I had never in my life done it again, but I now know because my coach had planted that seed in my subconscious, I was destined to make it happen.  And yes, I ran and ran and ran because I missed such a simple thing.

But, what a huge lesson for me and I have come to learn even more so in this class, that the Mind is a POWERFUL thing.  Not your conscious mind, but your subconscious mind.

Recently I started thinking about what would happen if we ever got in a car accident?  We had just sold off our “extra” car because our kids were off to college and we didn’t need an extra car collecting dust and costing us a fortune in insurance.  The thought popped up, I guess, because I wondered how we would be able to handle a car shortage—if an accident ever happened.  So guess what happened…you guessed it.  Not only did I get rear ended, but two weeks later I got front ended.  I am thoroughly convinced I threw it out to the universe by thinking about it and the universe responded.  Yuk!

Imagine what you can do if you think about good things in your life that you want?  Imagine what you can do if you think about great things coming to you in your life?  Imagine what you can do if you think about the things you are working hard to deserve?  I am a firm believer it will come to you because the mind is a powerful thing!

Week 10 .

Give more, get more. Period (.)

When I started my business, I didn’t know but a handful of people in the city we had just moved to the year before.  In addition, I had very little training in business, but I did know I was going to be successful.  I was smart enough to know I needed someone or something to help me with my weaknesses if I was going to grow and be successful.

So, I did two things:  I started volunteering and learning from the senior partners and I started going to networking groups and events.  I have always had gumption, so I could walk into a room of strangers and strike up conversation without much thought.  However, I had no idea what I was doing and was slightly un-nerved to do a 60-second commercial at first.  “Fake it ’til you make it” was in full effect!  I did the 60-second plug and was off and running.

I was always taught that everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time and is just as human as me.  So no matter how big or small my insecurities, I could talk to the CEO of a multi-million dollar business or the janitor at the conference center and not think much about it.  People are people and I have always treated others the way I wanted to be treated.  As the months have passed, I have gotten better at my 60-second commercial and I have learned a lot.

It took me several weeks, maybe even months before I had an epiphany as to how to make things work in these situations.  I finally figured why some groups were more fruitful for referrals than others. Some individuals enter into these networking events with one thing in mind:  who sitting in this room can help “me.”  To me, those folks stood out like they have a giant cartoon arrow hanging from the sky and pointing to their heads that read, “me, me, me”.

On the other hand, I have always taken the approach in networking events of:  who in this room can I help?  Can I connect anyone here with people I have already met?  How can I help them?  I was seeing imaginary lines criss-crossing from one person to another with the ideas that were flooding my brain.

To me, meeting people and getting to know them and finding out what they needed for their business is fun.  Connecting dots and finding solutions is something I have become very good at.  Plus, its the way I was brought up, if I have the ability to help someone who crosses my path, I will.  And again, it’s the way I wanted to be treated.  So, over time I have begun to foster some really great friendships with those who have become great referral partners because they think like I do.

Since taking this class and learning about, “Give more, get more” I was already a believer because I was already living it.  It really makes me feel good when I can make things happen for others and I know it will come back to me, but I’m not expecting it.  I just love to do it.

Side note:  I just got off the phone with my mom and she asked me what I was getting out of this class…my response: “more”.  🙂